4 Tips To Overcome Loneliness And Connect Instantly With People

One of the most tragic and sad realities in 2024 is the crisis of masculinity and loneliness and the epidemic of male suicide, with men killing themselves at four times higher rates than women and an all-time record high in 2023. Given the gravity of the situation and the inability of young men to overcome loneliness, I feel like this does not get sufficient attention from the media. No one seems to care.

It is fair to say that when traditional mainstream media covers it, it is usually the same broken record narrative that “men just need to be able to express themselves and be more vulnerable.”

I am not going to do that in this article; instead, I want to provide you with a few actionable steps I have developed in the last 2 years while solo traveling around the world, which you can apply today to improve your life instantly while staying true to yourself and walking away from what doesn´t serve your interests

Now, let’s dive in.

Acceptance and Reframing: You are on a mission

You can´t change anything until you fully accept the reality you are operating in

Acceptance, in its essence, means being okay with whatever reality you find yourself in. That doesn’t mean you can’t develop a new vision or goal. On the contrary, you absolutely can and should.

But what it does mean is that you first need to see reality for what it is so you can craft a plan that will actually get you from point A to point B.

When I lost my company in Mexico, I started to solo travel because I was alone. But there is something that I learned

Feeling lonely and being alone are not the same thing

One is a feeling of lack, an emptiness within brought on by feeling unloved and unwanted. When you are lonely, you feel disconnected from your source. It is a terrible place because the vibration of energy is very low.

Being alone, however, can be an empowering place to be if you adopt the right mindset. The one I chose to adopt is that I am on a new mission. My mission is to tell a story about the Uncharted Road and write letters about not falling into the same traps I did.

If someone wants to join, that’s fine. If not, I am still on my mission.

Every person around you could potentially help you

One super valuable piece of advice I try to adopt as often as I can is from Jordan Peterson and his book 12 Rules For Life

Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t and by doing so, you form a connection which alleviates feelings of loneliness

This principle encourages open-mindedness, humility, and the willingness to learn from others, regardless of their background or status. It’s a reminder to listen carefully and considerately, valuing the potential wisdom and insights that each individual can offer.

In other words, every person around us has the potential to bring us closer to where we are headed if we tune in and give them the attention they deserve.

Just like the red lady in my story. She didn’t even say anything but her kindness and her actions were so powerful that I felt compelled to carry them to another country and share the same energy with another seemingly unrelated person.

Write down everything, especially in the morning and evening

Journaling really is a superpower. By doing so, you immediately set yourself apart from 99% of the population. I really believe that.

Here are a few insane benefits I get from journaling:

• Time slows down and my awareness and ability to stay aware of the present moment skyrocket
• I feel more gratitude; I literally walk into my day feeling energized and thankful for the insights and meaning I wouldn’t have found otherwise.
• I think people do not understand the huge impact of deliberately assigning meaning to events and things that happen. Let me explain that again In other words, you can consciously decide on if a minor event had importance or not and reap the emotional benefits from that decision
• A clear path forward opens up every day; your mind gets uncluttered and you make room for new meaningful events to arise. You actively make yourself responsible for your inner space. It is your temple, so take care of it.
• You build a legacy, a story with meaning and your life starts to make more sense.
• You can draw from the memories that start piling on, share them and build something. Maybe a book, a podcast, or a newsletter?

One crazy thing per day

The comfort zone is a lovely place but nothing grows there.

Action is required to improve. Putting yourself out there is an absolute must. Few things in life are more valuable to a man than genuine social skills and the ability to approach people and strike up a conversation, whether on a date, taking photos, or otherwise.

Embrace your weirdness and give yourself permission to screw up. It is also a lot easier to do that when you just let go of any preconceived outcome.

I am going to be completely honest; I have no idea what I am doing here. As I am writing this, I don’t even know if I am going in the right direction, but it feels right.

What’s your weirdness?

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