3 Realizations to Debunk the Biggest Myths About Dating Coaches for Single Men To Experience More…

One of the most common myths out there when it comes to dating coaches for men is that they intentionally manipulate or trick women into obedience.

Nothing could be further from the truth; in fact, I would argue that dating coaches are actually true life savers who don’t get enough credit for their work. Instead, feminists defame them because they are operating not from reality but from an ideology that is based on the patriarchy fallacy, which turns men as a group into villains, especially when talking about complex and controversial topics like dating.

Of course, this is complete nonsense, and this is also why men should never take advice from feminists when it comes to dating.

This is what learned from the best dating coaches in the world

A few years ago, I myself and a friend of mine from Mexico started our own dating project called “Latin Daygame”, Back then, in 2016, when I lived in Playa del Carmen, we would approach hundreds of girls on the street and record our interactions, mostly for the sake of dating and having fun. And because of that, I was lucky enough to become friends with Alvaro Reyes, who then visited me in Playa del Carmen and ended up living in my house for some time before he settled down in Mexico to build his dating coach empire in Cancun. Through him, I would meet famous figures like Mistery and other well-known personalities in the industry with whom we would hang out.

Alvaro Reyes, whom I consider to be my best friend, not just because of his work but because he is a kind and wonderful human being with an authentic desire to help people (men and women alike), I know his motivations because I have helped him in his workshops actively and seen the transformation of socially awkward young men into happy individuals by embracing personal growth.

I remember one particular instance where we had a group of students?—?one, I should say, a boy?—?because he was maybe 19 years old and literally terrified of speaking to women. He would completely freeze. I will never forget this one, because in his case, it was the father who reached out to Alvaro and paid for the workshop. It was that bad.

So we were walking outside in a mall, and there was this table outside of a Starbucks with three attractive girls. Alvaro then gave him his marching orders: “Go to the table and ask them for their phone number to invite them on a date with you.” He did, and it worked. He actually made it happen. I think I have never seen anybody so happy in my whole life. This young man was changed forever.

This is just one of many stories, but to call this behavior predatory or misoginistic is just wrong and irresponsible at best and evil, misandric, and nihilistic at worst. Here is why

Why true dating coaches are life savers and we need more of them

There is an epidemic of lonely and sexless men for a variety of reasons, among them the rise of social media and the ability for women to “market” themselves and their “beauty assets” on Instagram on a global scale. So while women have more choice than ever and have become more selective than ever before, average men just can´t compete. As in several studies widely documented, 10% of men get 80% if all dates are on these platforms.

The repercussions? Now, consider what occurs if you are unable to entice or establish a connection with the other sex. You become irate and frustrated. You end up feeling angry and resentful with yourself as a consequence. I would not advise anyone to go there because it is a really dark place. That is how “incels” are made. (Involuntary celiabtes)

So, it is not dating coaches that create them, but, on the contrary, it is the lack thereof!

So unless we want young men to go down that path (which I don’t doubt many feminists would like them to), then we must provide young men with opportunities to become more attractive to the opposite sex.

It turns out that women are not equal to men and are actually more drawn to confidence and (perceived) status than to appearance, so there is hope and good news as well. At least when there is a way to convey this in real human interactions.

So, here is what we need to encourage young men:

Meditation #1: Approach and talk to women. This is difficult in the post-metoo era. Understably, men are scared to do this nowadays since their lives can literally be destroyed in an instant. The “believe all women” hashtag and other idiotic trends have eroded a lot of trust and destroyed gender relationships on a broad scale.

Many men in the red pill community completely abandoned this idea all together by embracing the black pill, or MGTOW, movement.

I oppose this, since nihilism cannot be the answer, or can it?

Meditation #2: Let’s give credit where credit is due. It should go without saying that not all people who offer dating advice can be trusted. There are also con artists who target lonely men who are desperate for companionship in order to make a quick buck.

But those who have a positive track record with years of experience should not be demonized but praised for the noble cause of bringing people together. One of the core principles of Alavaro Reyes classes is:

Always leave the other person better off than when you found her. Even in the face of rejection.

How is that not good?

Meditation #3: Let us acknowledge and appreciate our differences. Regardless of the enormous differences in how we experience life and how we respond to various challenges, we should avoid succumbing to damaging ideologies like feminism, which tell young men and women that they are equal and women are oppressed.

Just be aware that men often resort to violent self- or other-harm lashing out when faced with extreme alienation and despair. That´s just the reality.

Embracing our differences with kindness and appreciation would seem like a more responsible course of action. Wouldn’t it?

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